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The Marina Dock Newsletter July 2006

Dear Marina Dock Members and Patrons:

Thank you one and all for your ongoing generous financial support. We had a fairly typical below average June. The summer months of June, July and August are seasonally slower for us donation wise. It's hard to believe we are halfway through the year, it seems for me these days, time is measured in terms of the Marina Dock Newsletter and how long I can procrastinate between issues. Every month I promise myself I will start early, write something interesting, be more judicious with punctuation and grammar, and produce a well written document, that even the most diligent of grammarians among us could not find fault with.

Alas it never happens, I inevitably procrastinate and engage in all kinds of distractions and avoidance behavior (this month The World Cup). The line "procrastination is a five syllable word for sloth," is probably, because of it's many practitioners, one of the most quotable of AA quotes. It is also I believe one of the first pieces of complex recovery language we master as newcomers, we like to bandy it about, in an attempt to impress or less erudite fellows, they would be the ones who are still in their first thirty days. Yes I must be rigorously honest and confess I am still a big procrastinator in many areas of my life.


The following excerpt is from the self help Psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist:

If you don't take action now but instead procrastinate, there is always a reason that is valid for you. Perhaps the action itself or the timing of the action is wrong for you, perhaps you need to grow before the action may be accomplished, or perhaps you just need to overcome inertia. Whatever the case, there is likely to be some fear that needs to be faced. If your inertia stems from fear, can you overcome your fear of this specific change by modifying your beliefs? Do you fear all changes? The best course when faced with procrastination is often to do the first step of the action anyway. If the first step goes well, inertia was probably the cause of your procrastination. If you try the first step and it goes badly, then procrastination is probably right for you now; and you will probably need to examine yourself further. Also, be on the lookout for self-deception concerning procrastination, because addictions (such as TV, food, smoking, etc.) are often used to deceive ourselves in these matters. When faced with a multistage process such as a complete change in career or an attempt to start up a business, always keep yourself as current as possible with actions. If you know, for example, that one of your next steps is to find out what city permits you need for your new business, this small unfinished task will add to your current level of stress. Most people do not realize that a simple unfinished task such as gathering a piece of information can increase our stress levels.

Our intentions to read 100 books or do 25 projects around the house rob us of present day energy. Instead, turn such intentions in your mind into possibilities, as suggested in Appendix C. If you intend action, your body feels the anticipation until you take the action or you change your intention. It is easiest to change these intentions into possibilities. You can review these possibilities every month, to select those to be attempted next month. In a multistage change process that can take months or years, there will be times when no action is appropriate. At such times procrastination is not the issue, and it is important then not to be self-critical.


Happy Birthday. I hope you had a relaxing day. Here are a
few words for the News- Letter.

Amazing Grace

My name is Melvyn C.
I am a recovering Alcoholic. About 12 years ago, I started to attend meetings at the Marina Dock. I was very damaged from years of active alcoholism. Although I had relapses, I always returned to the Marina Dock. Irish Tony with Compassion, and a wonderful sense of humor, always made me feel very welcome and comfortable. Tony also had the intuition that I needed additional help in my Recovery, and connected me with a Psycho- Therapist. Some of us need additional help. Fortunately, I am doing well and am enjoying six years of sobriety. The Marina Dock is open daily over 18 hours during the week, and over 19 hours on Fridays and Saturdays. This is Unique. In my travels across the United States, I have not found a Club with such expansive hours. Most clubs close for a few hours in the afternoon, and only stay open late on weekends. Alcoholism is a fatal disease. My recovery in AA has been Amazing Grace. The Marina Dock with its compassion and wealth of meetings has helped save my life.

Cordially, Melvyn C

Irish Tony,
I had the pleasure of stopping by with my girl friend on Monday night for a meeting at the marina dock. We were visiting from Los Angeles .I grabbed a copy of your newsletter and read the story of "jay walker".
We found it really f****** hysterical. back in L.A ,I find out today around 4:00pm that I'm leading an 11th tradition step study at Tadford hall here in Sherman Oaks at 6pm. I went online and printed out a copy of the "jay walker" story and read part of it to the crowd, emphasizing the being too anonymous portion that dr. bob had spoke of. the fluent German response is a real keeper,
I just wanted to give you props and hope you don't mind:

All the best Johnny O.

p.s. if you're ever in L.A. look me up.

To:  Irish Tony
Date: Friday, June 30, 2006 03:42 am
Subject: Happiness at the Dock

It was a cold wet Thursday evening in November 2005, when I called the AA hot line to learn of any meetings in Marin, as I was heading home after a day in The City. The representative on the other side of the phone stated that there were no 10:00PM meetings in Marin, but that there was one in San Francisco. He subsequently directed me to the Marina Dock, where a 10:OOPM meeting was about to start. I was so happy to have a meeting available to me, because as a night owl, a late-night meeting is ideal.

The speaker that night gave a great talk, but what resonated with me, besides the meeting being such a good one, was the facility itself. Everything seemed to be in such nice order, from the coffee/tea service, to the other refreshments, and even stations to log on and check email. What a departure from some of the hellholes I have been in. Not that the message of recovery can't be found in any venue, but give me a comfortable setting any day, and I will be happiest. Since that first Thursday, I have repeatedly gone most Thursdays at 10:OOPM, and even other days both at 10:OO, as well as at other times. The fact that there are meetings at the Dock 7 days a week, from morning to night, has made it such a wonderful place to go.

What has made another very strong impression is the sense of family that exists at the Dock. Not only from the regulars, but with the staff there as well. It is so incredibly comforting to come to a place and get to know a group of people, and have them get a chance to know me. I can be having a day filled with trials and tribulations, and once I walk through the doors of the Dock and take a seat in one of the meeting rooms I instantly feel grounded. It is a special feeling which words would be hard pressed to describe.
Having such a nice place to participate in my recovery is a true delight. When I was the secretary of a meeting for the past 6 months in Marin, I was able to find great speakers from the Dock, much like a fisherman would fetch a good catch at a stocked trout pond. All I had to do was cast a line, (Show up), and I would inevitably find someone ready, willing and able to help carry the message.
I feel very fortunate to have such a wonderful meeting place in the recovery community.

Philip L., Marin


I had a Jay Walker sighting a few days ago, Jay was working the busy intersection of Sutter and Van Ness. As I approached he was in the middle of a potential hit. He was sporting his Treasure Island look that is now his trademark. emaciated, unshaven , barefooted with a pair of late eighties Robinson Crusoe three quarter length pants. He came up broadside to this young couple who were looking at a city map. "I am not an inspirational panhandler" Jay pleaded "I have lost all sense of dignity and self -respect, I am basically a bum" The couple who appeared to be middle-class, New-Euro-Riche, looked incredulously at The Jay Man and fled into the back of a waiting Taxi.

Have a Great Independence Day.

With Gratitude

"Irish Tony"


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